I pity so many people, in fact, I pity everyone entangled in the matrix. When you get married you give your best to keep up the relationship, but have you ever thought how much of your wishes and desires you are curbing to do it?? Don't you think twice before saying that tonight's dinner, I want to take with my friends and scrap off the plan I made with you... The same thing happens when you think you have fallen in love. Everything you do is to please your close one. You are so sure that it is him or her that you have to spend your entire life with and so you do your best to keep up the relationship in full spirits.
It is, after all, the matrix we are all strangled into. Expectations are the root cause of everything. I see my parents, they are a happy couple, but mom is always planning on how to keep the family emotionally satisfied and papa, always planning on how to keep the family financially satisfied. My dad always says that to keep up the marriage, if one of the couple loses temper the other must stay calm and handle the situation.
Everything seems so fake sometimes. It's like God set up everything and everyone is trying to idealize their own lives. But is this what is happiness?
It is the human mind that is continuously at work. The subconscious always tries to take you to the levels where you have wanted to go. It will tell you to perform actions that will give you a place in this world. It will make you express thoughts unintentionally which you know you must to make your relationship healthy.
But then there will be a time when everything around you will seem so fake. Everything that you have been doing till now will seem so obsolete, and that will be the time when your subconscious will actually become conscious and will guide you to the actual actions your self always wanted to perform. This is the stage when nothing around you will matter. No social stigmas would hold you back neither will you care about what people would say. That will be the time when you start feeling liberated, unlike the people who have actually not experienced it and are still deeply caught into human whirlpools.

[I owe credit of this post to a person who has changed my life by leaps]

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